As a coach, whenever I talk about change, I tend to envision it as a kind of a three-fold process, starting with getting “clear” about what we want, and then on to getting “committed” to and “going” with some real action.
The only problem with this model is that it’s not exactly as linear as it sounds. For we all know that it’s not enough simply to get clear; we have stay clear, and stay committed to action.
So, at virtually any stage of the process, we need to stay focused on both the changes we wish to achieve as in the future, as an outcome, but also on the changes we are prepared to continually make now, and over time. And in order to do this we need to be fully enrolled in a plan that we trust will take us there. After all, without confidence that the plan we are about to follow will be effective, it will be impossible to make much of an effort.
If we’re 90% convinced, we’ll probably follow through 90% of the time.
But if we’re only 20% convinced, you can guess where our commitment level will be,
Or for how long.
Change almost always comes at a cost to us personally. It could be the cost of a bad habit or comfort ritual we’ve grown accustomed to because it seems to meet our needs, at least on some level. But if we come to see how these habits are truly undermining our goals, we will soon be more motivated to drop them, or at least replace them with something else that is more aligned with our ambitions.
And this, in a nutshell, is what strategic intervention-based coaching is all about. By seeing the true effects of our behavior— or what I sometimes call “getting real”— we can finally drop the illusion that says we can hold onto this pattern and still get the new results we are after.
Now, if this all sounds complicated or heady, don’t worry, it really isn’t. It’s simply about committing to a plan that’s aligned with reality, and that employs strategies that not only work in theory but that are truly workable by ordinary people like you! Even if you have behaved much differently in the past, and for quite some time, once you acknowledge and commit to the changes necessary, then all that’s left to do is to structure that commitment over time, with the kind of encouragement and support that ensures your success. And that’s what coaching is all about, really.